Valentine’s Day is for Lovers. At least that’s what everyone wants you to believe. But for me it’s about Love in general. Which includes the love for my friends and the people in my life. This is why this is an ode to them!
Obviously, the older I get and also the longer I live away from home or places I call home, the more I decrease the number of people I am keeping in touch with regularly. And maybe some friendships fade after a while. But with most of the friend I have at the moment I know for certain that they will stay in my life until I’m old and grey.
Friendship is precious. And friendships need to be nurtured in order to blossom. But I truly believe that this doesn’t have to happen on a weekly basis. It is important for friends to be there for each other whenever something major (or minor) happens in their lives. And it is important that your friends know that you are here for them, no matter if here actually means next door or just a phone call away.
In a time and age where it is so normal to just move to Australia, America, all over Europe for a few months or years, friendships get tougher. It is not a thing of seeing each other every day in school while planning the afternoon or weekend activities together, like it was when we were all still in High School, friendship is actual work. You have to make an effort in order to keep a friendship alive. And I am more than grateful that I found those people. The people that will always be in my heart, no matter how far away they are. And the people I can call when I am over the moon happy or deeply devastated because they share every emotional rollercoaster ride with me, wherever they are.
Thank you. X
Just the other day I was researching for a radio show we did for college and stumbled upon Essena O’Neill again, who you’ve probably all heard of. This 19 year old Australian girl, who quit Instagram and all other Social Media networks because she said it’s not real life. And when researching a bit more, I found so many websites and articles about that topic and about those millions of #goals comments on Instagram. And it made me think.
Travelling alone is scary sometimes. And it makes you feel alone sometimes. But I wouldn’t change the experiences I made for anything in the world. And like already mentioned in my article about my love for hostels, there is one thing that just makes you feel less alone and makes you feel so much better after a long day on planes, busses or boats – the people you meet.
After I had a little incident with broken glass at a Halloween Party at my house the other night, I started thinking about respect. And that respect is one of the most important things a person should have. Ever. But especially when travelling.
I gotta admit: I am a bit of a coward. Not always, not in every situation but there are things that just scare the shit out of me. And there are also situations where I think: “Maybe I’m just not going to try that. Everyone’s going to look at me and everyone’s going to think I suck big time.” And sometimes that feeling wins and I’m just staying in my comfort zone. Which I honestly regret almost every time. But sometimes I just think to myself “Fuck it” and go for it. And so far I never regretted it.
Everyone gets to a point in their life where they have to make decisions. And most people are afraid of those situations. It could be a job decision, an apartment issue or relationship troubles.
Trusting your own instincts is somehow a thing not a lot of people are able to do. They always think there’s something better out there waiting for them. Continue reading
Every Morning women stand in front of their mirrors, criticizing themselves: too fat, not fat enough, too skinny, not skinny enough. All depending on their heritage, tribe and culture.
Just last week I was talking to a Nigerian girl telling me, how it is normal for women to gain a lot of weight once they are married. It’s a sign that the husband takes good care of his wife. But also for not married girls it is an attractive feature to have a big ass and some curves. (By the way, Nigeria isn’t the only country where that applies.)